Interesting and insightful read! It’s interesting because when you look at the four quadrant of the four base parenting models originally based in baumrind’s work, the top and bottom represent responsiveness or attuned, typically, and the left and right represent demanding or controlling. One side is high control, the other is nearly completely autonomous. The top is high responsiveness, the bottom is non-response. Thus the four styles each represent a combination of these. High attunement and control, high attunement and low control, low attunement and low control, and low attunement and high control.
High in both areas is considered the “gold star” authoritative, high in control but low in responsiveness=authoritarian, low control and low responsiveness is considered uninvolved and low control and high responsive is permissive. The autonomy lies in the middle between permissive and authoritative.
We have to take the negative connotation out of permissive parents. Most people describe uninvolved parents when they think they are describing permissive.
So there’s certainly a need to be flexible through the control and responsive end of the spectrum there.
Interesting and insightful read! It’s interesting because when you look at the four quadrant of the four base parenting models originally based in baumrind’s work, the top and bottom represent responsiveness or attuned, typically, and the left and right represent demanding or controlling. One side is high control, the other is nearly completely autonomous. The top is high responsiveness, the bottom is non-response. Thus the four styles each represent a combination of these. High attunement and control, high attunement and low control, low attunement and low control, and low attunement and high control.
High in both areas is considered the “gold star” authoritative, high in control but low in responsiveness=authoritarian, low control and low responsiveness is considered uninvolved and low control and high responsive is permissive. The autonomy lies in the middle between permissive and authoritative.
We have to take the negative connotation out of permissive parents. Most people describe uninvolved parents when they think they are describing permissive.
So there’s certainly a need to be flexible through the control and responsive end of the spectrum there.